Since her marriage of 12 years to her ex-husband, Rod Nuttal, broke down irretrievably over some strange circumstances, Nollywood star Kate Henshaw has buried herself into her career and looked up to her daughter as the greatest source of joy and motivation..
In a recent interview culled from a celebrity blog, the actress, in what may seem to be her first official comment since her divorce, opens up on what led to the divorce.
Read the excerpts below…
You strike people as a happy-go-lucky individual. Share with us some low moments in your life?
Generally, when life gets you down. The issue of the break-up of my marriage will get any one down, having being through 12 years and you had plans for the marriage and all of a sudden, everything stops, but then, that’s life. It hits you with a lot of things but you shouldn’t let it get you down.
Tell us more about your former marriage. How were you able to deal with it?
It’s God. He makes things beautiful in His own time. The slightest bit of strength is all is needed to rise up. People have died in marriages, some have lost body parts while in it, and others have spent years in it. It all depends on individual, it’s just to make the most of every situation and move on. I have so much that I want to do. I have no time to be wallowing in self-pity.
Marriage does not define who I am, neither does it define anybody. I came into this world as an individual, two people meet and decide to make it work but if it doesn’t, let it go. I wish you well, you do same, especially when there are children involved, because they are the worst hit. My plan now is to ensure that my daughter has the best in life, no matter what.
Why did you break up?
It wasn’t working anymore. It’s good to leave, rather than continue to manage it and live in strife and rancour.
A lot of Nigerian women have recently shared their stories of physical violence in the hands of their husbands. Did you experience this?
No, not at all.
What then was the cause of the break up?
Personal.
Any regrets?
No regrets at all. My daughter came out of it and she is the most beautiful thing ever.
Any possibility of reconciliation?
No. My daughter is the most important person and she has to be taken care of. As far as she is concerned, we are for better, for worse.
Are you making plans to give love a chance again?
I don’t have anything against love. I want to love again, after all, God gave us his son to love us.
